The past few months have been a whirlwind to say the least. We re-signed our lease for our little rental last January, I partnered with Fort Worth Texas Magazine for a weekly video series with The Blissful Bee, I just recently changed jobs (now working with that very same magazine as an Audience Development Manager… *ah hem* thank you blog for making super awesome connections), found out I was invited to the Better Homes and Gardens Blogger Event this Fall and booked my very first trip to NEW YORK CITY (still not believing its real), and over all of those months, I’ve been dying to get out of our rental and into our semi forever home.

I didn’t want to re-sign our lease back in January (not the slightest actually), but it’s something we just had to do. My hubby was transitioning back into Real Estate and we knew we needed to start saving for the lack of a consistent pay check. Don’t get me wrong, transitioning him into Real Estate has been the best decision we’ve ever made, but you just never know if you might run into a rainy day. Thankfully I still had my paycheck and things have been just great. After a few months of saving, we are now in the buying-a-house mode, but I have to be honest, it hasn’t been the most pleasant experience. In fact, it’s been the opposite. It’s been terrible. Let me explain…

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I’ve been ready to move for the past 6 months (probably more), so I think it’s safe to say I haven’t been the most patient wife ever. I’ve been refreshing real estate websites multiple times a day in hopes of finding our future home. So yes, he word “patience” has not been in my vocabulary lately. I want a home more than I want a lot of things. While most girls dreamt about planning their weddings and having babies, I dreamt about my 100 year old home that I could paint and love and make my own. I happened to luck out when I married my best friend 4 years ago, but I’m still yearning for that 100 year old craftsman with its 100 year old wrap around porch.

The unfortunate reality? That wrap around porch will most likely not happen. I know what a lot of you are probably thinking. “Oh, you don’t want an old house! There are so many problems!” or “Old houses are money pits and you never know what you’re getting into”.  Well, I’m aware an old house isn’t what a lot of people would want, and I know renovations can sometimes be scary, but I have this weird connection with old houses and the thought of owning one makes my heart so happy. Sitting on a front porch that provided past families with happiness and memories for decades makes me feel like home. I could go on, but I’ll spare you the soap box.

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For a few months I had convinced myself it would never happen and I became ok with it. Historical homes tend to be VERY expensive in our area no matter how old and run-down they are. Buying a historical home simply wasn’t in the cards. I spent my days looking in areas I didn’t want to live in, but they were places we could afford. They were practical. Not what I wanted, but practical. I was ok with practical and forced myself to believe it. That was until Graham and I went to look at a historical home in my dream neighborhood last week. Built in 1925 WITH a wrap around porch. Need I say more? It was in our price range and pretty much everything I ever dreamed of. It was a fixer upper and I could pour love (and a LOT of paint) into it. It was imperfect and I loved it.

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So what’s the problem? Historic? Check. Front Porch? Check. In your price range? Check. It’s perfect, right?? Well…not exactly. It was a big fixer upper and the hubby didn’t have “that feeling” about it. He didn’t see it as our home, and although it broke my heart into tiny little pieces, I can’t blame him if he doesn’t love it as much as I do. I worry he was a bit distracted by the old wallpaper, bad paint choices and outdated decor, but even still, I would never want to force something on him that he wasn’t 100% sure about. If he doesn’t feel at home, then neither do I, so we passed on the house and didn’t make an offer.

So here we are back again on square one. Passing up my dream fixer upper in my dream neighborhood and reverting back to practical. Who knows, maybe another wrap around porch will find it’s way to me, but I’m not holding my breath. This experience has already been weighing so heavy on my heart and I’m trying not to set too high of expectations. I think people forget about the emotional journey of house hunting and simply assume the experience is going to be so glamorous and exciting. I’ve bought a house before, but even I forgot what a beating it can be. I’m trying to remain hopeful that Graham and I will be able to find a combination of practical and character filled, but I’m just really not sure. I know whatever is meant to be will be, so I just need to keep reminding myself of that.

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I guess the moral of the story is, buying a house isn’t easy. It’s not easy for most people. If you’re buying a house with a spouse or boyfriend, you need to think of their needs as well as your own, you need to think about school districts if you’re planning on having kids (or already have them), you need to think about re-sale value or even a potential profit if you can get a fixer upper in a good area (and the rehab budget involved), I could go on. And on top of all of that, you need to follow your heart. I know most people say to NOT get emotional when buying a house, but I don’t agree at all. We’ve lived in a rental that I had no emotional connection to and I am SO ready to get out. When you buy a home you love, some of those little things on your “must have” list don’t matter as much because you have a special connection with the house. If you buy a home that simply looks good on paper but you have no emotional connection to, you will never feel like you’re truly home. Really, it’s all a balancing act.

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At this point I have no idea where Graham and I will end up, but I just hope it’s a place we both feel at home. Because no matter how much I love a home or he loves a home, it only matters what we both love. Sure, we won’t get everything we want out of a home, but who does?? Yeah, pretty much no one unless your a lottery winner. And…let’s face it. I’m no lottery winner;) I’m sure I will be giving you all updates over the next few months, so stay tuned! Hopefully they will start to become a bit more uplifting than today’s semi-stressful post, but hey, sometimes you just gotta keep it real! Right??

 



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17 Comments

  1. I completely agree a home needs to feel just that a home, not another house. Have you ever thought about buying land and building? In the event that you don’t find that older house with soul? We are currently looking at house plans because we already have land, but I just thought I would throw that out there as a suggestion? Hope you find your semi-if not-forever home. It’s always about timing.

    Good Luck,

    Vashti

    • The Blissful Bee

      Thanks for the advice Vashti! We threw around the idea of building, but we’re still not sure it’s something we would want to do this early on. Maybe 10 years down the road? We’re still not sure yet though. Any option is an option for us right now haha

  2. Oh wow! I totally could have written this myself! I am househunting as well, want exactly the same thing as you – a period fixer-upper (happily so does my boyfriend), and we found the most picture perfect thatched cottage in a beautiful little English village near Oxford recently, in our price range, and ideal to fix up and make our home. We even made friends with some locals in the village pub – everything was perfect. BUT, then we realised because it is a listed property (it dates from 1700s so has protected building status) we would need a specialist mortgage, which gives less up front, meaning our deposit would need to be DOUBLE what we have scraped together. I swear I literally spent an afternoon in mourning for what could have been our home. I am still hoping against hope something miraculous happens, but in the meantime consoling myself with the knowledge that things always happen for a reason. Here’s to us both finding our dream homes soon!

    • The Blissful Bee

      Oh wow that sounds like that would have been an amazing house!! 1700’s?? It’s must have been stunning!! And I totally feel you on the mourning process haha. I was literally devastated for a number of days! Still probably not fully recovered actually haha

  3. I wish you the best of luck!!! I too have dreams of an old Fort Worth craftsman bungalow with the big front porch that I can restore to original character, a-la Nicole Curtis style 🙂 It’s just definitely not feasible on a single income! I share your woes about how expensive old homes are in this area even despite their condition. I do hope you and Graham are able to find your dream home, or the one you can make into you dream home! I’ll be living vicariously through you, and crossing my fingers for you, friend! 🙂

    • The Blissful Bee

      Thanks so much Kate! Yes, Fort Worth real estate has BOOMED over the past few years and prices are just through the roof right now. I’m still hoping Graham and I can manage to find a good deal, but who knows! And I love the Nicole Curtis reference by the way. The whole time I was writing this post I was channeling her haha She would totally understand how I feel! But she would kill me the moment I start painting all the trim white! hehe

  4. I feel for you! We bought our first house last summer and it was a complete roller coaster! We would put offers on houses and be out-bid within hours – it was very stressful – but we finally got our house after losing the original bid, so things always happen for a reason! Our realtor kept telling us not to get emotionally attached, but you have to get somewhat attached to a house to want to put an offer on it, right?! I don’t understand why people tell you that when you’re house hunting 🙂 Good luck and I’m sure it will all work out in the end!!

    • The Blissful Bee

      Thanks Kelly for the encouragement! And I agree, why do people always tell you to NOT get attached?? Your choosing a house for a reason right? Isn’t it because you love it!?? haha

  5. My husband and I look for 6 months before we could find the right fit! I wanted a fixer upper with good bones, and he wanted it to be an investment. Looking for houses was no fun after a while, but you just have to try to be patient! The market in Denver was nuts this spring but it slowed down enough in July for us to find “the one.” Hopefully y’all can find something this fall! Best of luck!

    • The Blissful Bee

      Yes patience is such a challenge, but I’ve decided to try and have a better attitude about it:) I’m just glad I have a new job that will be distracting me for a while! haha

  6. Oh Amy! That breaks my heart! This is a long shot, but my first thought was that you should reach out to Chip and Joanna Gaines of Magnolia. I know Waco is almost 2 hours from you, but maybe they could convince him that it could work. Have ya’ll watched the show Fixxer Upper together? It might just change your hubby’s mind about this old house…

  7. Oh Amy! Posts like these are what always make me feel connected to you! Where I live, 100-year old charmers and old brick farmhouses get torn down because there is little inspiration to fix them up! If you could only see the craftsman bungalows for $60,000 that can be bought, it would drive you crazy! I wanted land and a barn, so I bought a 100-yr old farmhouse that had been stripped of its charm in the 70’s and have spent the last 8 years giving my home back its dignity! There is something about old homes and their past lives- when you get that connection, YOU JUST GET IT!

  8. I have the same dreams of the old fixer upper bunglaow with the wrap around porch (in the Heights)!! Unfortunately, I need to win the lottery and convince the boyfriend that it would be so much fun! haha. Good luck with the search!

  9. I was reading this and honestly thought to myself…oh my gosh, she is me! I have the same love for historic homes, and luckily, so does my boyfriend. I am even a member of the historical society in the town we are buying. He is handy and I am crafty, but house hunting in the tiny village area we want to live in (that neither of us are willing to compromise on) has been scarce and stressful. I just hope we both find out beautiful historic homes.

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